Let's be human together 💗
"'Free' is not free from feelings, but free to feel each one and let it move on, unafraid of the movement of life." - Jack Kornfield
These are challenging and unsettling times in so many ways. You may feel like it’s all too much to be with at times. You may be done with 2020. You're not alone.
And yet we’re alive in this moment right here. This moment is calling us to be with what is. Now is (still) worth showing up for.
The way out isn’t to run away or numb. What we resist persists.
Resistance is how we naturally protect ourselves against vulnerability. We cannot selectively numb though. When we block the grief, fear and anger, we also block the joy, love and our sense of aliveness.
So give yourself permission to feel. Let the emotions move through you. They have a beginning, middle, and end. Exhaustion happens when we get stuck in them - when we don’t complete the cycle.
May we let these times be a teacher of who we really are - of presence and love - and what matters most. Rumi wrote: “This turn toward what you deeply love saves you.”
What or who do you deeply love?
We’re all human. We’re all trying to figure it out. And we can’t do this alone. We all need spaces where we can be witnessed in our humanity. Where we can make room to be with the life that's here.
What are these spaces for you?
Below are a few resources that I hope might be supportive for you.
With love,
Sarah-Marie
Resources
[PRACTICES]
Thanking Your Emotions
When you notice a difficult emotion arising as you go about your day, you can stop, take a conscious breath, and say "Thank you for trying to protect me. Thank you for trying to take care of me. I am OK for now."
RAIN of Self-Compassion
Through the practice of RAIN, we can bring mindfulness and compassion to difficult emotions and experience. It invites us to be with our emotions and actual lived experience with self-compassion. The acronym RAIN stands for:
Recognize: Seeing clearly what's going on and how we are stuck inside an experience;
Allow: Creating space to be with the experience just as it is;
Investigate: Moving from the story and beliefs to getting in touch with the actual lived experience, with kindness; and
Nurture: Offering kindness inwardly.
Here's a ~16 min guided RAIN practice.
[POEM]
Excerpt from "Go to the Limits of Your Longing" by Rainer Maria Rilke
"Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror.
Just keep going. No feeling is final.
Don’t let yourself lose me.
Nearby is the country they call life.
You will know it by its seriousness.
Give me your hand."
Guided Meditations
RAIN of Self-Compassion [16:34] to work with difficult emotions and cultivate self-compassion.
Self-Compassion Break [10:42] to work with a difficulty in your life.
Coming Home to Presence [16:59] to practice mindfulness of breath, body, and emotions.
Lovingkindness for Self & Others [19:51] to cultivate kindness toward yourself and others.
Cultivating Compassion for Others [10:56] to practice cultivating compassion for others who are struggling